You mean this type fo love:
The creeping ray of morning,
over the horizon line,
brings comfort to the chill,
the radiant valentine.
Melody of the singing birds,
swaying high up in the pine,
calming the morning mood,
the harmonious valentine.
Glistening white snow,
echoing luminescence shine,
reflecting the day’s hopes,
the alluring valentine.
The cold winter gloom,
repelled by all that kind,
yet pales in my desire,
to that of my sweet valentine.
or this type of love:
Daggers of reluctance stab in to my heart,
as I keep watching this union fall apart.
Never in my life have I been so sure,
never in my life have my thoughts been so impure.
Questions of rationale surface in my mind,
"answers" of passion and "love" is all I can find.
The pit of my existence threats with despair,
but some part of me seems not to care.
Holding on to memories that are only half true,
listening to the silence to learn what to do.
She tapes us back together and throws ourselves away,
never knowing how she'll feel the very next day.
I know how I was, but where was she,
wondering if I'll ever know how much she cared for me.
Love is a word, so it is open to a relative definition. To give it an all purpose meaning, would be silly. Personally I don't love anyone. "In age when life on earth was full, no one paid any special attention to worthy men, nor did they single out the man of ability... They loved each other and did not know that this was 'love of neighbor'." That's from Chuang Tzu's book, xii, 13. I hold feelings of disregard for certain people, and even a higher degree of hatred to a veyr special few, but other than that, I hold all people to a same standard of care. Just because I know someone shouldn't mean I should care for them more.
As for sex, that's kinda nature out and saying, PROCREATE!!! As for finding someone you always want to be with is something simple. When you are around someone you feel a certain way, happy, sad, mad, fruity, ignorant, a king. When you find a person you "love" you just tend to feel all that good stuff more often than with other people. We take this condition and give it the name love.