Might it be that some questions you don't want an answer?
This is really hilarious. So it's not that the idea that I haven't been born yet, am fully alive, have already died and decomposed, all at the same time, is hogwash. No, not really, I understand it perfectly (and so do you!) but it makes me feel uncomfortable. Get real Harv!
Here's what I think about it (and what you think is immaterial since we're talking about my feelings):
I wish you were right. I wish the passage of time were just an illusion, that I haven't really been born and I have already died. That would imply my consciousness has nothing to do with my body. It would imply birth and death do not exist, that we are souls floating in timespace and we will never die, after all everything is eternal. So I have nothing against "eternalism", to me it would be great news. Unfortunately my logical mind won't buy it, and the loss is all mine.
Maybe you are a mystic who would prefer that science not continue to encroach upon the territory of the mystic?
Harv, you must remember that the whole problem has to do with the fact that no matter how you measure it, a second is always a second, a meter always a meter. This is a matter of logic, clear definitions, self-consistency, mathematical exactness. No need to psychobabble me, the issue is quite simple and straightforward, I take it can't see because you're too dazzled by the fact that relativity supports your particular beliefs. As I said, I don't discuss religion.