Physics is ambiguous about what is real beyond the reality of events.

An illustration of this is Bohm theory. In this theory, electrons are real particles with comlex structure capable of sensing and storing information- not just points in space. In addition, the quantum functions that become probability waves are also real in Bohm theory.

Yet this theory is not accepted in most of the physics community. They prefer the more ambiguous theories such as the ones you mention. Some theories say its all waves and others say its all particles.

QED our most accurate theory ever was derived on the basis of only point particles, no waves. But some of the particles had to be coming back from the future, an assumption that is unnerving to most of us. But in this theory, particles are the only reality. Nothing else needs to exist.