" Particle B would seem to have an instantaneous response to A also.
In other words A responds to B’s field, not to the particle B and is therefore instantaneous. "

Sounds close to what I'm thinking, but it's hard to be sure. The internet doesn't seem to be a good place for these kinds of discussions, at least not until they invent some cyber-chalkboard.

" Is this clear as mud? "

It's not so bad. Take a look at the "God and Science" forum to see how muddy things can get...

Have fun

(PS: the thread's title is a quote from Wolfgang Pauli. I wish I had come up with that one!)